Its been awhile since posting. So much learnt. Thanks so much for your comments I appreciate them.

Today I’d like to talk about Buttons. Think of buttons as bullseyes all over you. Stick with me here.

If you have buttons that say “I’m sensitive about my hometown”. You will probably encounter more sledging about your home town than anybody else.  Why is that? Because you have so many emotions tied to “defending your home town” that you attract people to kindly help you practice that.

Buttons when pressed usually result in the following reactions:

1. Steam coming out of ears,

2. Yelling,

3. Desire to defend.

3. Writing people off no matter how ridiculous the button they’ve pressed.

4. Sometimes can result in violence. (Ever seen 2 drunk guys at a bar fighting over a woman? Their buttons are probably “other men cannot look or talk to my girl”)

Think about the last time you got angry at someone over something they said. Think about it. Was what they said or did really so terrible? Thinking everyone has the same beliefs or values as you without communicating those expectations to others really leaves you wide open for lots and lots of button pressing.

So how did you get these buttons in the first place?

Buttons are usually in response to something in your past. It could have been something where you felt you were in danger or people you look up to teachers, parents etc have continually told you something over and over, you then take that on as “case”. Case is like an instruction book for a certain kind of circumstance usually formed over a specific incident or from continually being subjected to something.

So how do you get rid of buttons? No one wants to intentionally be a hot head or have people irritate them.

Write a list of the things that push your buttons. Be honest. The best a most fun way for you to get rid of a button is to be “ball baited” about it. This means for example if there’s a word that you can’t stand. Get your friend to sit there and repeat it to you until you have no emotional response to it.

If you aren’t comfortable with the potential reaction you could make towards said friend ask yourself “is this really me or case?” If so where could it have stemmed from? Is it helping you? Is it achieving anything constructive? Chances are the answer would be “no”. So let it go.

Clearing on it can definately help. Ho pono pono is the best way I’ve found. I’ll be putting a page up soon for more detail but it’s a mystic Hawaiian tradition of clearing issues away by saying the four most powerful sets of words we have “I love you, please forgive me, thank you, I’m sorry” You can either say it to the person or say it in you mind. It definately helps with drivers cutting you off. Say it to yourself repeatedly whenever you feel yourself getting angry about a situation or frustrated. It clears the energy over your issue from cranky to a place of gratitude and forgiveness.  You know by now how it works. You put out crankyness and you get it back.

Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it. If you’re still cranky over a situation you haven’t repeated the Ho pono pono phrase to yourself enough..

Buttons are not in fashion this season so it’s time to get rid of them. They just don’t suit you!

Light n’ vegemite

Lis